“We would love to attend, but we will be overseas on that date. So sorry.”

“Oh, how unfortunate.  I really want you to come.”

“You should have told us earlier.”

“I guess so.  But I thought it would be impolite to invite you without a formal invitation … and I had no idea how much I wanted you to attend before you told me you could not make it.”

“Do not be so upset.  After all, wedding is for family and friends …”

“Exactly.  And you are perhaps the closest to friends that I have all these years.”

(after an awkward silence) “You really need to manage your life better.”

“I know that.  I do not need you to teach me of my peril.  I know I am rather screwed up.”